Hate? Indifference? Pitty?

You all know about my MIL..and hate doesn't even begin to explain how I feel for this woman! Indifference till last night was the best I could give......Last night DJ decided he and his brother were gonna go out and have some guy time...Cool I am fine with that....I have not one problem with that! I think it is healthy to do things like that. Well they end up over at his moms....why I have n clue...even though I asked them NOT too...because I know how she gets with him when I am not around...it is bad enough when I am! Well they leave there go to a friends place then end up at the same bar she hangs at...(let me say I am not a bar person if I am gonna drink it is at home) anyways....she shows up and brings this chick in with her..and walks right up to DJ and says Look what I brought for you....he says thanks but no thanks mom....she get pissy with him...chick asks him to dance he says no I am married...she says I don't care it is just a dance...he says no again...the chick backs off and walks away....his mom wont let it go....threatens to light him on fire if he doesn't dance with her....throws stuff at him...calls him a fat ass chicken ****....all that good stuff....Now I know I am not the mom of the year, I know I didn't have the mom of the year..but DAMN GINA.....what is wrong with this woman? We have been together for 11 years...and she won't let it go...I am a B and I am a loser and I will never get him anywhere in life and I cheated on him once...(BTW we had divorce papers drawn when I did that,(long story) so is that really cheating?) and trust me I have had to pay for that.....BUT that is between he and I....NOT HER! I called her this morning she swears none of that happened so I played her the three voice mails and she says she didnt say that...LMAO really because that is your voice and those are your numbers....oh well it was someone else...I said FINE..you tell that someone else and YOURSELF to stay the hell away from me and my home and my children! I don't care if you have anything to do with us again...you have no respect for me or my children trying to get their father to break up his family and cheat on his wife....of course she says she didn't do that. I said well you know....I refuse to let you attack my family anymore....STAY AWAY....well she says she is gonna call the cops so she can see her grandkids...I said go ahead and try...crack head and hung up! ladies I am so done with all of this....his family is nothing but a source of frustration to me...I don't want to tell him he can't have anything to do with them, because they are his family and I would be mad if he ever told me that....I suppose I will just let them hang themseleves....and be done with it....WOW thanks for the vent...I had to get that out....I am just in shock I suppose....she never ceases to amaze me....why does this woman hate me so much...or why does she think he is so unhappy....does he tell her that he is unhappy? I am at a loss....gotta run. Shan